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Often there are warning signs present early on in a relationship that can alert you to the fact that the relationship could become abusive. The signs are usually there but often people mistake or confuse them believing they are just romantic or they are concerned about you.  You may not have had too many relationships to compare this one to so the only thing you can rely on are your own feelings and learning to recognise warning signs to  protect yourself from violence or abuse in the future.
For example, when you first start dating someone it can be a bit confusing if your date starts to act very jealously.  You might even feel flattered that they are that interested in you but, actually, excessive jealousy and controlling behaviour are not signs of affection at all.  They are warning signs that you are likely to be in danger in the future. Take notice of the warning signs and protect yourself from dating violence.


Use these warning signs to alert you that you may be in danger

  • He comes on very strong to begin with, is extremely charming and a smooth talker.
  • He gets serious very quickly in a relationship.
  • He gets extremely jealous of other people.
  • He isolates you and tries to make you feel guilty for wanting contact with family, friends or for participating in activities outside the relationship.
  • He never takes responsibility for himself, always blames others or something else.
  • He abuses drugs and / or alcohol.
  • He acts hurt when he doesn't get his own way.
  • He takes offense when other people disagree with his opinion.
  • He has been cruel to pets or other animals in the past.
  • He has threatened you with violence.
  • He calls you names, puts you down or swears at you.
  • He is extremely moody and switches quickly from being nice to explosive anger.
  • He intimidates others e.g. uses threatening body language, punches walls or breaks objects.
  • He holds you against your will to keep you from walking away or leaving the room.
  • He has abused children.
  • He has hit a previous girlfriend.


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