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What is domestic violence?

Domestic violence is when one parent fights and bullies the other.
There might be yelling, screaming and hitting.
Unfortunately domestic violence happens in many homes.  This is awful for everybody especially for kids. 

Understanding feelings

If domestic violence happens at your house you might feel confused, you might have all sorts of other feelings that don't make sense. For example, you might love your dad but hate what you see him do to your mum. Every child and young person will feel differently, there is no 'right' or 'wrong' way to feel.
You might feel:
  • scared
  • angry
  • worried
  • anxious
  • nervous
  • sad
  • disappointed
  • ashamed
  • confused
  • frightened
You may also:
  • Have bad dreams
  • Get tummy aches
  • Have headaches
  • Have trouble concentrating at school
  • Worry about your mum when you're not there
  • Worry about your sisters or brothers
  • Feel like something bad is going to happen
  • Have to look after your brothers and sisters
  • Try to protect your brothers and sisters when it's happening.
  • Wish you had a 'normal' family
  • Wish the fighting would stop
  • Have moved house or changed schools a lot
  • Had to keep what is happening a secret 

Things to remember:

Violence at home is never the kids fault, even if they are arguing about you or they say you caused it. There is nothing you can do that can cause an adult to be violent.  Always remember, adults choose how they behave.  
  • You are special
  • You are important
  • You are lovable
  • It's not your fault
  • You are not alone
  • It's okay to talk about domestic violence


Some ideas for what you can do to feel better

  • Talk to an adult you trust about what is happening - this could be your teacher, a friend, school counsellor, Grandparent, Aunt or Uncle.
  • Draw a picture 
  • Write down how you're feeling
  • Listen to your favourite music
  • Phone or text a friend 
  • Read a book 
  • Spend time with a friend
  • Play a game with your brother or sister
  • Make a list of what you like doing that makes you feel happy 
  • Do some exercise like go for a walk or a run or play some sport 
  • Have a cry  
  • Find an empty place where you won't disturb anyone and shout as loud as you can 
  • Take a deep breath and count to 10 

What to do if fighting starts:

The most important thing you can do is make sure you are safe. NEVER ever try to stop the fighting because you can get hurt.
  • Leave the room where the fighting is happening straight away
  • Go somewhere safe like your bedroom or outside to hide and wait there until it is safe to come out
  • If you have brothers and sisters try to all wait together
  • If you have a phone you can call for help - ring the police on 000, ring a neighbour


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